I am sure you never have thought of this, but nevertheless we all do it. WHY ?
My focus is not to challenge the reader and try to convince him not to have kids; but is mainly to thought provoke him to think before he acts! Procreation is a beautiful gift of nature and entails much more than just a life. So are we mocking this great majestic process by rendering it objective less?
The first and foremost reason that strikes any conscience mind is, to continue lineage. But let us take a second look at it. Even before actually deciding to have kids, do we really think that ‘I want to continue my lineage and so I need to have kids’. I don’t think so. Besides, if that was the sole purpose, once you have your first kid you would stop. But no, we crave for having two or three. Anyways for now let us accept it as a genuine reason but is that enough? Is it not too materialistic and render you selfish? Just to continue your lineage, you are going to bring one or more lives to life! Get some better reason!
Given some more time, you may say that getting to see part of me growing gives me a sense of satisfaction. I want to see a life growing and control/manage its growth the best possible way I think. Good enough; any one would agree to it, but again I still think that this reason is also selfish. I mean if tomorrow your kid asks you, ‘Dad why did you bring me in this world?’, assuming you to be an honest father, would you answer him this!? Just to satisfy my hunger of seeing a life growing I bought my kid in this world! Well then let me cross my line and ask you this, tomorrow when your kid is old enough and decides to commit a suicide, why would you have a problem? You have been served the purpose, now let that life end! NO, certainly not, isn’t it? So there is something more behind the objective of this procreation. What is it?
I have a few words of experience to share (, though not of self-experience). Having your kids makes you a better human. The kind of relationship you share with your children, with no other person can you have it! By being delighted with their accomplishments, the kind of charm that you get is simply not describable. That is when you know what is meant by being happy. When a tear roll down the chick of that gorgeous face, you want to bring the whole world down to his feet! The sense of passion you have then is superlative. When that young soul is in pain, you wish only if you could replace yourself with him and free him of this pain! The sense of patronizing that you have then is unbeatable. So in short, you get to understand the human emotions in a much better way. Now if you see any other person in pain, you know how it feels to be in pain! You are more willing to help that person out of his agony. But again, isn’t it beating the same path of selfishness!? Is there anything more?
I think that I want to have kinds to make this world a better place to live! I know the purpose of my existence, ‘to change something in this world to good effect’ and I am certain that changing ‘something’ is not going to help the greater good. So I want to have someone by my side who can carry forward my work, but not anyone, someone in whom I Believe. Someone who holds same values as of mine and perceives things in (my) right way. Such a person can only be my child, none other could even qualify! Now that’s what gives purpose to this new life also. I feel like I am honoring the process of procreation. The above mentioned points are all valid points but those are all fallouts of this procreation process and are rewards to me for working towards greater good!
I might as well add that not necessarily everyone will think about the objective, but now once you have some thoughts over it, I feel you will be better motivated and directed. Many things happen in life, nature has given us brain to think and act. The act of deducing the purposes is left to humans and therefor we must know why are we doing something.
After thinking about this, I am at least a little more aware. Now I know what do I get by having kids and how do I help greater good. I have the theme and perspective about the process of having kids. Don’t you?